Have you noticed how certain people tend to feel more anxiety than others? Why is that? Some people always seem so worried. What’s happening with this crisis or that market? Who’s coming into office? What’s going on overseas? What if I do this? What if I do that?
(Some of this thinking was discussed in my earlier post, “Just Make a Decision.”)
I’m not saying those considerations aren’t important. But I AM saying most anxious people are focused on external forces. What’s going on outside of my control that’s going to affect me? Anxious people believe the world happens to them.
But what about people who don’t experience that same anxiety? What’s happening in their mind? I’ll submit that it’s an entire different “self-talk”. Want to lose the anxiety? Then focus on items within your control!
- What can you do about the situation?
- What plan can you carry out?
- Who could you ask for advice?
- Where can you get the answer?
- What do you want to happen? And how do we get there?
Those anxious surroundings will never go away. They are constant. Forever. The difference is what you focus on.
The world doesn’t happen to you. You happen to the world.