Recently I was headed to an industry training, hoping to network with friends and colleagues; hoping to become better and light a fire in my belly. Packing the night before, and casually visiting with my wife, she asked a couple polite questions about the event. I said,
“I’m headed to Atlanta. I have to attend this conference.”
And in saying that, I noticed negativity in my own voice. Soon after that came out of my mouth, it hit me. I don’t have to attend this conference. I get to attend.
How many other professionals would jump at the chance to attend this event? And pay handsomely to do it? I was surrounding myself with incredible professionals, catching up with friends and become better at my craft. Perspective.
The first expression (“I have to…”) is a language of obligation. Nothing wrong with obligation or accountability. But a lot of times, “I have to…” becomes negative. It becomes the language of a victim who’s lost control and is being forced to do something.
The second expression (“I get to…”) confers empowerment. When you get to do something, you’re privileged and you’re coming from a place of positivity and opportunity. The change is one word, but it’s enormous.
- I don’t have to workout at 5AM, I get to. My body and mind are healthy enough to take on the physical activity and consequential benefits.
- I don’t have to be in the office today, I get to. I’m privileged to visit with team members and partners all day who care what I have to say.
- I don’t have to spend time reading the Word today, I get to. What a gift to have an element of faith in my life that serves as a guiding light.
- I don’t have to straighten things at home tonight, I get to. I’m incredibly blessed to live where I do, with who I do, in the manner I do.
Now it’s your turn. Today you get to change one word and add perspective to your life.