Matthew's Mind

Your wings already exist. All you have to do is fly.

The first expression (“I have to…”) is a language of obligation. Nothing wrong with obligation or accountability. But a lot of times, “I have to…” becomes negative. It becomes the language of a victim who’s lost control and is being forced to do something.

The second expression (“I get to…”) confers empowerment. When you get to do something, you’re privileged and you’re coming from a place of positivity and opportunity. The change is one word, but it’s enormous.

“Now that my first tooth is out, I feel a lot stronger dad. Like I can do more push-ups. And I even pulled the drain plug in my bath with only one hand tonight!” That’s what my son Noah told me a couple nights ago; less than twenty four hours after losing his first tooth. …

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